Working with our inner heroes and villains by acknowledging our capacities and limitations can help us to find new perspectives on old situations or "lurking danger". -Rose Dito
Heroes and Villains
By Rose Dito, MFT
Today I was absorbed in watching Star Trek Into Darkness.
Captain Kirk and Spock are familiar characters in my repertoire of heroes. The ways in which they rely on and inspire each other
to be their best selves leaves me with a feeling of warmth and possibility. It
is their bond and loyalty to each other that allows them to be courageous in
the face of danger. The film reminded me
that surrounding ourselves with our own team of supporters can help us achieve
goals that were previously unattainable.
with clients, I become part of their support team helping them to fight against
internal and external villains. When danger is threatening such as cancer and the loss of a parent one can become overwhelmed by a flood of emotions. However, despite the intensity of emotions
that these crises evoke, having a network of supporters can help possibilities to
surface and can pull one back from the precipice.
Fear, loss, anger- when not acknowledged can either poison us in self-attack, illness or wreak
havoc externally through angry outbursts, imperious demands, overindulging in
drugs, food or spending. Working with
our inner heroes and villains by acknowledging our capacities and limitations can
help us to find new perspectives on old situations or "lurking danger".
In Star Trek Into
Darkness, Kirk continually thwarted rules that would kill off those who were
integral to him. Some of his thwarting
authority was adolescent and based on hubris. Loss
helped him to integrate uncertainty. He showed absolute determination to overcome
dangers to protect loved and valued others. A new capacity to look at an old
situation with fresh eyes is what I try to promote with my clients. Recently a client who had felt forced to seek
employment to shore up her financial safety, was able to incorporate into her
perspective on work a desire to collaborate with others. In order to contemplate new steps we need
internal and external others that believe in and value our capacities, who know
our weaknesses yet champion our strengths.
Rose Dito, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, has a private practice in Burlingame where she works with adults, adolescents, couples and seniors. She specializes in PTSD and long-term integrative work, chronic and life threatening illness, dual diagnosis and parenting. She is a practioner of EMDR, family systems, intersubjectivity and object relations. She can be reached at 650-692-4118 firstname.lastname@example.org
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