What is Awake and Aware Right in the Middle of This Experience?

Listening in to the heart of the matter.
Sometimes, lots of words are required to get, or point to, the heart of things in a way that is useful. And sometimes, saying a lot is saying too much.  What is Awake and Aware Right in the Middle of This Experience?
-Tom Rhodes, MFT






Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT
Website: www.selfinquirytherapy.com

This blog will be short and sweet, so to speak. Sometimes, lots of words are required to get, or point to, the heart of things in a way that is useful. And sometimes, saying a lot is saying too much. This week, the latter feels true to me, and so I embrace it. Quite simply, I invite you to ask yourself, next time you are suffering just a little bit, the question that is the title of this blog. 

What is awake and aware right in the middle of this experience?
 
Let's say it's a tinge of sadness you're experiencing. Letting that be just as it is, neither turning the volume on it up nor down, inquire. Then just really feel it consciously, from that non-locatable center. When fully inspected, this question can be a quivering arrow that shoots straight to the heart of the matter. Another twist on the question, albeit in my opinion a slightly headier and less potent one, would be 'what is this sadness made of? Either one of these is a gateway to potentially finding that 'sweet spot' in oneself, in one's experience of any feeling, by relating to your suffering from the openness and vastness within it, and not having to remove yourself from it and 'hover outside'. The latter can work well for finding temporary relief, yet it also tends to sustain it ultimately in one's life at large, with patterns and themes and such. Opening to suffering from the inside, conversely, dissolves it naturally, like water turning to vapor, as opposed to ice. Enjoy this inquiry! And the fullness of the flavor that it unpacks, and unveils.
 
Tom Rhodes is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in the Noe Valley neighborhood of San Francisco.  He specializes in working with people who suffer from anxiety or whose very identity is being called into question by the current circumstances of their life.


Tom Rhodes, MFT